Well in my last post I spoke about a date with "j"...the nice guy. Based on several great comments from my peeps, I determined that if asked again out by him I would say "yes". Well over the weekend I received a text from "j" and he asked if we could get together again this week. Based on my schedule time was limited so we agreed that last night would work and just grab something at Starbucks.
Now most of the day I was kind of feeling pressure about going out based on my work and social week. Late in the workday, I was offered a much more appealing invitation with some friends that started around 8PM.
I decided to ditch out of gym class and asked if we could meet up earlier. He said yes, so we meet up. I immediately told him I had some plans later in the evening and our night could not last long because these friends wanted to spend some time together prior to Thanksgiving. He agreed and then suggested dinner. We walked down the street, to a decent cafe (a very over priced joint).
We had a lovely meal...but the entire time I kept asking myself if I could romantically be with him. Every time I tried a mental picture I got easily distracted. As we were walking back to the metro he thanked me for the meal (he paid…that was an awkward moment). He said he would hope to see me after the holiday. I did not want to commit based on there still being no spark, so I just thanked him for dinner.
At the metro we met up with a friend of mine...needed outside assessment. Chatted and when he departed the train I just waved…no PDA here…I could not bring myself. She said all the right things, smart, kind, not ugly, can carry on a conversation but in the end we both determined he is “plain vanilla.” With that being said, I do not believe I can do another date.
Looking back at the night, I really wish my young leaders had taught me how to date cordially. In addition, reinforce the fact that it is OK for me THE GIRL to be the non-interested one without guilt. Blasted!
SIDE NOTE ... post date kicked some *&^%! had a rockin' time out way to late for a school night...suffering this AM.
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Robb would TOTALLY be on your side. Most LDS SA have this "do or die" attitude about dating, when it's really - at least initially - all about getting to know people and HAVE FUN. I'm guilty of being too serious about it, myself (but then, I pretty much knew I was going to marry him and he hadn't figured that out yet.) ;-) Anyway, I'm glad you went, I'm glad you had a decent time, and you should definitely feel GUILT FREE. It's not marriage, it's not eternity, IT'S A DATE.
Okay. I'm done now. :-)
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