I am breaking my silence and confessing to all in the blogging world..."Hi, my name is Carrie and I'm an on-line dater."
Yes for one month I have been on-line dating. I was having a moment of despair one night over the lack of single, straight, LDS men in my sphere. So to lift my spirits after a conversation with a dear friend about their on-line dating stories I mustard up the courage to get on-line with a serious attack. After surveying a few on-line daters and sites I went with a pretty well known one. I picked some photos out, wrote a very humorous, witty, honest, and in my opinion glowing greeting. I even had a personal consultant review my efforts. Then to show my level of commitment I paid a whopping $14.99 for one month with the option to renew for a 3 month contract.
Now I felt very uncomfortable cruising the site looking at photos, reading greeting, and searching by my preferences. Then a semi-wise person said, "everyone else on the site is doing this exact same thing." With that being said I started not only reading profiles but sending notes with witty questions and comments. I immediately got a decent reply rate. So I started conversing back and forth with SEVERAL men. I was very impressed with myself. Now of course I got a handful of 50+ widowers/divorce semi-shady men who are now blocked. My favorite was a man with 5 children asking how I felt about being a mother...I laughed with fear.
After 2 weeks I had my conversations down to 3 guys...still very impressed with myself. Then one magical day they ALL stopped writing. It was the most strangest thing...I wondered had they all figured out I was casually chatting with them and felt I should only be chatting with them...hmmmm. So to be pro-active I sent a follow up to each of them and to this day have not received a "no, thanks...but good luck email". Now I frequent the site to see who is new and who has checked me out. When I visit the "viewed my profile" tab each of these men appear on a daily basis. WHY???? and SUPER LAME????
Now to be fair I am going to share my stats...
My profiled viewed - 87 times
Messages received - 24
Messages sent - 39
Flirts recieved - 7
Flirts sent - 8
I ask ... would you consider staying on the site in hopes that someone new will appear and search for new interest? Or would you consider it a valient attempt in on-line dating and find another site?
6 comments:
Well, I committed to 4 months on the same site and, in that time, only met 2 people with whom I really clicked...so I'd say stick with it for a little while. :-)
I would give it 2 to 3 months. Definitely do meetup.com. Take a photography, art history or cooking class. Join a museum.
The best advice I seem to have got was "Put yourself in a position to be pursued." Which means: Be into yourself. Don't be the overt pursuer. Own your confidence.
But I'm single, so...
I agree; it takes several months, and new people are coming on all the time, or maybe there is someone on there who thinks they've found "the one" and it turns out they haven't and they will be trolling other profiles soon. So you just never know.
I didn't meet Pork Chop online, of course, but I did my fair share of online dating and even though my roommates at the time thought I was CRAZY, I don't regret dabbling in it. It was always interesting and occasionally even fun. And if I'd had a blog back then -- wow -- the stories!
uh, hello have you seen the e-harmony commercials?? Need I say more?
I'd say stick with it for a few more months before jumping sites.
One of my best dating stories ever came from an online date. Perhaps I've told you about the date that insisted that we kneel in prayer together at the end of the night?
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